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Monday, September 20, 2010
The Girl's Job
Every girl you meet has a job to do.
Every single one.
That job is to NOT be taken advantage of by the guys she meets. To NOT become a slut. To NOT be fucked by you and then dumped by you. Unless that's specifically what she's looking for.
Each and every single girl you meet has this job in front of you, when you're interacting with her. This is why you can't just jump in between her legs upon saying hi. This is also why even after a bit of flirting she may not open her legs to you. She's doing her job. She wants to know you're not manipulating her. Then, once she feels like you're not . . . if in fact you still are . . . she feels even worse about herself for letting her guard down when she shouldn't have.
So, you see, she's doing her job by not letting you have sex right away.
Every single one.
That job is to NOT be taken advantage of by the guys she meets. To NOT become a slut. To NOT be fucked by you and then dumped by you. Unless that's specifically what she's looking for.
Each and every single girl you meet has this job in front of you, when you're interacting with her. This is why you can't just jump in between her legs upon saying hi. This is also why even after a bit of flirting she may not open her legs to you. She's doing her job. She wants to know you're not manipulating her. Then, once she feels like you're not . . . if in fact you still are . . . she feels even worse about herself for letting her guard down when she shouldn't have.
So, you see, she's doing her job by not letting you have sex right away.
Wednesday, September 15, 2010
Mr IDontGiveAFuck
Mr. IDontGiveAFuck, and the truth about him.
We ALL have to live by rules, whether they are societies rules, work rules, social rules, venue specific rules, government rules, etc.
So, when someone says to you "just don't give a fuck", it's not that you can literally not give a shit about rules. You have to abide by most of them. In some shape or form. What it means is, basically you know who you are and you don't try to conform to someone else's idea of you. You don't supplicate to others for approval. You don't seek external validation. You don't give a fuck what others think of you. It doesn't mean you just go around ignoring rules.
We ALL have to live by rules, whether they are societies rules, work rules, social rules, venue specific rules, government rules, etc.
So, when someone says to you "just don't give a fuck", it's not that you can literally not give a shit about rules. You have to abide by most of them. In some shape or form. What it means is, basically you know who you are and you don't try to conform to someone else's idea of you. You don't supplicate to others for approval. You don't seek external validation. You don't give a fuck what others think of you. It doesn't mean you just go around ignoring rules.
Monday, September 6, 2010
Anchors
You've got your entire past of bad memories anchored to your mind forming your current belief system. This is what you now believe about yourself. This is where you draw from to say "I can" or "I can't" do something here in the present and in the future.
It's a common thing. Everyone has good and bad experiences. These experiences, throughout our life are anchored to certain actions or events in our life. For instance, you were traveling through a certain intersection when someone turned in front of you. Now, every time you travel through this same intersection, feelings of fear and dread flow through you, along with you being extra aware of all the traffic at this intersection. You may even still EXPECT someone to turn in front of you again. This is because the even is tied to this intersection, or ANCHORED to you this way. This is what an anchor is.
In dating and seduction we use anchors as well, but we try to make those anchors positive. In other words, is the girl enjoying being with you? Good, then give her a cute nick name, or take her to a fun place, or do something memorable so that she anchors that good memory with you.
Well, when we deal with our past, the years that have led to this moment in your life, you already have tons upon tons of anchors in your mind from all of your life experiences. These anchors usually tend to be negative for most people. These anchors form your current belief system, in other words, they form the ideas of what you think you can and can't do now, at this point in your life.
It's time to free yourself from these anchors. What you've done in the past has no effect on what you can do now. What you can do now is only limited by what you believe you can do and what action you take to make things happen in your life now.
Form some new anchors. Positive ones.
It's a common thing. Everyone has good and bad experiences. These experiences, throughout our life are anchored to certain actions or events in our life. For instance, you were traveling through a certain intersection when someone turned in front of you. Now, every time you travel through this same intersection, feelings of fear and dread flow through you, along with you being extra aware of all the traffic at this intersection. You may even still EXPECT someone to turn in front of you again. This is because the even is tied to this intersection, or ANCHORED to you this way. This is what an anchor is.
In dating and seduction we use anchors as well, but we try to make those anchors positive. In other words, is the girl enjoying being with you? Good, then give her a cute nick name, or take her to a fun place, or do something memorable so that she anchors that good memory with you.
Well, when we deal with our past, the years that have led to this moment in your life, you already have tons upon tons of anchors in your mind from all of your life experiences. These anchors usually tend to be negative for most people. These anchors form your current belief system, in other words, they form the ideas of what you think you can and can't do now, at this point in your life.
It's time to free yourself from these anchors. What you've done in the past has no effect on what you can do now. What you can do now is only limited by what you believe you can do and what action you take to make things happen in your life now.
Form some new anchors. Positive ones.
Bottom Line . . . Conveying High Value
Do each of your words and actions convey high value to those around you?
Guys ask me all the time how to display higher value. Or how to tell a story that shows that the guy is high value. And I tell them it's about BEING higher value.
"How do you do that?"
Read my first sentence of this blog again. ;)
Guys ask me all the time how to display higher value. Or how to tell a story that shows that the guy is high value. And I tell them it's about BEING higher value.
"How do you do that?"
Read my first sentence of this blog again. ;)
Thursday, August 5, 2010
I've been away a while
No excuses, just reasons for that ;)
I've had situations come up . . . ex's to deal with . . . and books to write.
No matter, here's another post and what actually may be the final one for this blog. If you like, you can follow me on another blog at www.tripp-author.weebly.com It's kind of an inclusive blog for my different careers. Check it out!
Friday, November 13, 2009
Grow Up and Get Out
Or rather, simply grow up and move on.
Listen, too many guys (and girls honestly) need to grow up these days. You've either got things too easy, or you hang on to hatred and bitterness that you should let go of, or you don't open your eyes to the world around you.
I don't care WHAT you've been through in the past. If you don't move past THESE conditions, you will NEVER grow up and be an adult or live the full life you CAN and should.
As far as PUA goes, you'll never find a good, quality girl at this rate. As far as life goes, you'll never find that quality, happy life that you truly want. Not unless you move past these issues.
"You don't know me." "You don't know my life." "You have no idea what I've been through." "You haven't seen the hell I've seen." "You don't have the family I've got." "You didn't have the upbringing I had." "You didn't go to the schools I went to." "You haven't been in the horrendous places I've been." "You haven't had to sacrifice the way I have." "You haven't had the setbacks I've had." "You haven't had your life on the line, with death being in front of your face."
You know what? Every single one of these are excuses. I hear them. And, you know something else? I'VE LIVED THEM. Yeah, you have no idea what kind of life I'VE lived either. So, you're excuses, your attitudes, your bitchiness, your childish ways don't fly with me. In fact, I'VE personally been through a couple of experiences that weren't even listed in those excuses above.
So, whatever your crutch is, get over it. You will never, and I repeat, never grow up as long as you hold onto that crutch. Period. End of discussion.
But, since we're still here . . . let me add something to this. Something meaningful. Something thought provoking. Are you ready for this?
It's never as good as it looks, or as bad as it seems.
Seriously.
Can you grasp the full meaning of this? In other words, if you've been on your death bed, barely escaping with your life . . . "it's never as good as it looks or as bad as it seems". It's just an experience that you've had that CAN help you to be a BETTER person, IF you learn from it.
The flip side. If you're a multi-billionaire . . . "it's never as good as it looks or as bad as it seems". Granted, being that wealthy has it's perks. But, it's not all peaches and cream either. There ARE definite downsides. It's, again, something you can learn from and grow with.
So screw your excuses, grow up, and learn from your experiences. Be a BETTER person because of what you've been through. Not a bitter one. Not a hermit. Not an angry, irritable, wanna fight everyone person. Not a 13 year old in a 45 year old body.
Grow up. Live life. Enjoy life to it's fullest. LIFE isn't stopping you from doing that . . . YOU are stopping you from doing that.
Listen, too many guys (and girls honestly) need to grow up these days. You've either got things too easy, or you hang on to hatred and bitterness that you should let go of, or you don't open your eyes to the world around you.
I don't care WHAT you've been through in the past. If you don't move past THESE conditions, you will NEVER grow up and be an adult or live the full life you CAN and should.
As far as PUA goes, you'll never find a good, quality girl at this rate. As far as life goes, you'll never find that quality, happy life that you truly want. Not unless you move past these issues.
"You don't know me." "You don't know my life." "You have no idea what I've been through." "You haven't seen the hell I've seen." "You don't have the family I've got." "You didn't have the upbringing I had." "You didn't go to the schools I went to." "You haven't been in the horrendous places I've been." "You haven't had to sacrifice the way I have." "You haven't had the setbacks I've had." "You haven't had your life on the line, with death being in front of your face."
You know what? Every single one of these are excuses. I hear them. And, you know something else? I'VE LIVED THEM. Yeah, you have no idea what kind of life I'VE lived either. So, you're excuses, your attitudes, your bitchiness, your childish ways don't fly with me. In fact, I'VE personally been through a couple of experiences that weren't even listed in those excuses above.
So, whatever your crutch is, get over it. You will never, and I repeat, never grow up as long as you hold onto that crutch. Period. End of discussion.
But, since we're still here . . . let me add something to this. Something meaningful. Something thought provoking. Are you ready for this?
It's never as good as it looks, or as bad as it seems.
Seriously.
Can you grasp the full meaning of this? In other words, if you've been on your death bed, barely escaping with your life . . . "it's never as good as it looks or as bad as it seems". It's just an experience that you've had that CAN help you to be a BETTER person, IF you learn from it.
The flip side. If you're a multi-billionaire . . . "it's never as good as it looks or as bad as it seems". Granted, being that wealthy has it's perks. But, it's not all peaches and cream either. There ARE definite downsides. It's, again, something you can learn from and grow with.
So screw your excuses, grow up, and learn from your experiences. Be a BETTER person because of what you've been through. Not a bitter one. Not a hermit. Not an angry, irritable, wanna fight everyone person. Not a 13 year old in a 45 year old body.
Grow up. Live life. Enjoy life to it's fullest. LIFE isn't stopping you from doing that . . . YOU are stopping you from doing that.
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